Last night I gorged on junk TV, which is my preferred way to spend a Valentine's Day evening! First Dates Valentines special, followed by Beauty Queen and Single then Celebs Go Dating. So even though my valentine and I weren't together last night it made me grateful that I was already hitched and did not have to face the daunting prospect of bracing myself for a first date.

So today I've put together my recipe for a first date outfit. Polished, casual is the look I've gone for. Not over the top glam as let's face it, if you watched Beauty Queen and Single, the guy didn't even notice she wasn't wearing make-up!!

Not too trendy but trend aware; again tricky fashion ensembles have proved to turn men off. They just don't get it, unless they're Tom Ford and well, it's unlikely you'll be on a 'date' with him. A heel but one you can walk confidently in, shades for an air of mystique, but not if it's dark and never to be worn inside, and some soft, tactile textures to show your warm, fuzzy side. 

Go for low maintenance grooming; a blow dry, nail polish and a soft make up look. Now I'm older I think this shows a man you're capable of looking after yourself therefore able to look after him; too much maquillage and it shows him how much time you'll spend in the bathroom rather than time spent stroking his ego! Cynical? Maybe. Pandering to his basic instincts? More likely. Well, it is a first date, plenty of time to reset the balance if the relationship flourishes.

So good luck to anyone who finds themselves single and about to embark on a first date. As Fred Sirieix, the Maitre D' from First Dates, who knows a thing or two about putting yourself out there says,' There is only one happiness in this life. To love, and to be loved'; although I'd say low brow dating shows come a close second!

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So the catwalks are now showing AW17, with New York the hub of all this weeks fashion action. The street style is of particular interest as temperatures average between 4 and -3 degrees in the capital which means we can pick and mix from the styling tips of the fashion pack and incorporate them into our winter looks now!

Here's what I've noticed so far;

1) Fishnet tights: Wear peeking out of your cut offs or under your ripped jeans if you're unlikely to don a skirt. The larger scale net has the most impact.
Below left: NY Street Style Grazia lifestyle.one  Below centre: NY Street Style aol.com Below right: NY Street Style at aol.com

2) The Accessory; Use your belt to cinch in heavier coats and jackets. The Fashionista are wearing them off the waist or dropping the shoulder on their outerwear.
Below left: NY Street Style at nymag.com                           Below right: NY Street Style at nymag.com 

3) The Sweat hoodie: Make sure you pop it out over your layers of outerwear.
Below left: NY Street Style at nymag.com                          Below right: NY Street Style at HarpersBazaar.com

4) The Fur coat: Preferably faux, but do note it's a longer length coat rather than a jacket.
Below left: NY Street Style at nymag.com                      Below right: NY Street Style at HarpersBazaar.com

5) The Puffa coat but not as you know it! Only in bold colours please.
Below left: NY Street Style at thefashionspot.com Below centre: NY Street Style at Grazia lifestyle.one Below right: NY Street Style at thefashionspot.com

6) Champion the brand: THE sportswear name to be seen in.
Below left: NY Street Style at Vogue.co.uk                                Below right: NY Street Style at nymag.com

7) The Red accent: Whether it be one item of clothing, an accessory pop or a logo, it had to red. Anything to brighten up the snowy backdrops.

Below left: NY Street Style at HarpersBazaar.com             Below right: NY Street Style at Elle.com

I've recently been guiding my mother in law on what to look for when buying an investment day bag; a designer bag isn't on her radar but just a good quality leather bag to replace the non leather high street bags she's historically bought that are now coming to the end of their lifespan.

For anyone a bag is an important accessory; it holds the accoutrements to our life on a daily basis and should therefore be a considered purchase; it's such a significant partner!

These are the things you should think about first when deciding what you need and want from your bag, to make the process easier when you're scouring the huge choice on offer.

1) Material- Okay so you've decided on a Leather bag but what type of leather? Supple and soft, or structured and durable. Lamb or Calfskin? Pebble Grain or Saffiano? As the majority of bags are made of Cow or Calf Leather you also may need to know your grain from your nubuck.

Full Grain leather is considered to be the top quality of leather grains, the skin has not been interfered with and is highly sought after. Then there is the Top grain, which is often treated to diminish blemishes or scars   on the skin.

Saffiano Leather is a finish that was patented in 1913, by Mario Prada. It gives leather a textured surface, recognisable by a criss-hatch pattern, which is made by a machine, see pic left. The treatment makes the leather scratch resistant, durable and easy to care for, which is why similar finishes are featured in high end or designer collections for the more structured styles.

Bonded leather is the lowest grade as it's a reconstituted material made from leather scraps. Obviously this is used for less expensive accessories, and lacks the quality and durability of Full grain or Top grain leathers.  

Nubuck is cowhide leather that has been rubbed or sanded on the outer side of the hide to make it feel like suede.

Suede is actually the name of the finish on a leather where the flesh or underside has been rubbed to create a velvety, soft nap. 

Lambskin is a less popular choice for a Day bag, as although the leather is soft and supple, it can be easily torn or marked and so isn't as suitable. 

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2) Style- There are so many to choose from, Tote, Shopper, Shoulder, Cross body, Bucket. Click here for 'The Complete Glossary of Bag Shapes' at Popsugar. Start off by getting your favourite Day bag or bags out and jot down their style and measurements. With the bags you own but don't use as often consider why it is you don't gravitate to those styles. This will help identify the buying mistakes you've made before, eliminating the possibility of doing it again! 

Also what's your default hold position? Do you automatically hold it in your hand or move it on to the shoulder. I've found a cross body bag is my preferred style, so I opt for bags with a long adjustable strap or attachable strap, as I often need to be hands free.

If you want a shoulder bag then be aware of the shoulder drop dimension, the highest point of the strap vertically down to the top of the body of the bag. How long would you like it? Refer to this when researching online. 

Also look at the gusset, side width, and base. Measure the dimensions of your go to bags and that will give you a foundation to check the measurements of your future purchase by.

​Also think about the ideal interior of your perfect bag. Do you like to rummage around a Bucket bag or do you like organiser pockets and an internal key fob for front door keys? Do you need a divider or does it need to be large to house A4 documents? 

How secure should it be? Zip top, tab top, drawstring or flap over clasp? Once you've made all these decisions you'll be so much clearer on what it is you want, making it easier to finding that perfect  bag companion!

3) Hardware- This is quite key to loving and using your Day bag regularly. Consider what jewellery you wear on a daily basis, what is the plating on your watch or commitment rings?

Hardware on a bag refers to  the clasp, the buckle, attachments, decorative metal detailing or zip colour. I would recommend choosing a  bag with hardware that matches back to your most worn  jewellery items. The most popular are shiny silver and soft gold, but may also come in Antique brass or Black nickel finishes.

4) Colour- This is tricky as I can't prescribe any hard or fast rules here. However I would always buy a 'Neutral' when spending a bit more on a leather bag.

​I'm lucky enough to own a Chanel bag which is in Ivory, an Anya Hindmarch bag which is in an Elephant grey and a Coccinelle bag in Black with a contrast coloured panel.

I think a Putty or Mushroom colour will see the most wear, as they can transition between Spring and Autumn. I prefer an Oxblood Burgundy, Chocolate and Navy to Black, but saying that if I was purchasing an Iconic Hermes or Chanel bag would default to Black! I think Tan can be a tricky shade; if it's too dark and heavy or too yellow it will be difficult to blend with your outfits.

Air Force Blue is another shade to consider; and there's a lot of this blue in the SS17 collections, like this Anya Hindmarch Bathurst Satchel £1,295 , top left.

5) Budget- A Gucci or Fendi Designer bag can set you back over a thousand pounds but most high end leather bags will be in the hundreds, from Kate Spade, Coccinelle, Michael Kors or Radley. Look at Department store websites to see all the brands available, choose your favourites, then you can filter down on price. 

If you want to see more inspiration from the catwalks then click on Vogues Ultimate Bag Guide for SS17 or do more research with this post from careergirldaily.com, 'The 7 handbags every career girl should have in her closet'.

​Next week I'll do a post on my favourite leather bags for the new season, with more from the high street too. Click on the links for more information and thanks for stopping by.